Getting Comfortable With The Uncomfortable
“A person’s success in life can usually be measured by the number of
uncomfortable conversations he or she is willing to have.”
- Tim Ferriss
Personal growth not only requires that you step consistently into your “discomfort zone,” but that you actually SEEK OUT DISCOMFORT — knowing that you WILL become a better person as an outcome — more knowledgeable, stronger, wiser, more courageous, more resilient, a better leader, a better friend ( … the list is long).
Going forward … Instead of avoiding uncomfortable situations, look for them, lean into them, fully embrace them … often … as a matter of habit. As long as you’re clear on the outcome you’re trying to achieve in the uncomfortable situation and you have a clear and compelling “why,” then dive into the discomfort and know that you’ll come out of the situation at least a little better (or possibly a lot better).
Recent uncomfortable situations that I’ve leaned into and learned from include all of the following:
Reluctantly attending a business networking event (I’ve never enjoyed “meet and greet” type of events) in which a wonderful new business opportunity emerged
Terminating a coaching relationship with a client who was not taking the coaching process seriously or with an intent to improve, freed up my time for an exciting new project
Sharing “hard to hear” feedback with a good friend — feedback that they definitely did not expect and feedback that helped me reinforce some clear boundaries I had set for myself
What uncomfortable situations are you avoiding right now? Write them down. Now …Lean into one of them … expect the discomfort, be clear on your desired outcome, flex your learning muscle, and come out on the other side better than you were before.
Now, do that again later today … tomorrow … next week …as a matter of regular practice going forward.
All the best to you!
Andy Robinson, Executive Coach
"Helping CEO's and executives maximize their influence and impact."