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We’ve all heard or read the research that asserts the idea that less than 10% of our communication is verbal (more like 7%); the other 90+% of our expression comes from body language, facial expressions, and tone of voice. In addition to saying what you want to say, it is therefore very important that you also express what you want to say.
For example, it’s not always enough to simply say “yes” to someone and expect them to fully accept your agreement with their assertion, you also must express “yes” to the other person. Three very effective ways of expressing “yes” or expressing your interest in what the other person is saying include:
#1: Nodding your head
Nodding is one of the most universally understood human gestures. Even people born blind will nod their heads to say yes. So, when you say “yes” to someone, also nod your head as you’re saying yes. When you agree with something that somebody else is saying, nod your head. Your “yes” and acknowledgment will be more fully accepted and “heard” by the other party.
#2: Tilting your head
Tiling your head to one side is also a universally recognized human gesture that signifies your interest in what the other person is saying. When someone else is speaking to you, simply tilt your head slightly to one side to show interest and nod your head if you agree with what they are saying.
#3: Mirroring
Mirroring is another very effective form of non-verbal communication that expresses interest in and attunement to the other person. Mirroring is simply reflecting the other person’s gestures back to them. The goal is not to mimic their gestures exactly but to attune yourself to their posture, their mood, and their general body movement. You’ll be subtly communicating that you accept the other person and are receptive to their ideas.
Try some or all of the above during your next interaction. Practice them going forward until they become a natural habit. You’ll definitely be perceived as a more effective communicator, and you should find that people in general will “open up” more to you.
Source: A wonderful book that I highly recommend: “The Power of Nice,” written by the team of Linda Kaplan Thayler and Robin Koval.
Andy Robinson, Executive Coach
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